The Final Call (An Update on My Coaching Program)

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Hey there, I hope you’re having a great day and that you’re planning a great weekend.

This weekend is Mother’s Day, and since it’s my wife’s first Mother’s Day as an actual mother, we’re trying to do something special.

(I also feel like I should do something special my my mom too… Now that I’m a parent, and I know all the struggles first-hand, I feel like I should get her a drink… or a car… or a private island or something…)

And it’s pretty crazy, just thinking about how much life has changed just in the past year alone…

Plus, it’s totally insane to think that my daughter is almost a year old (and that it’s only 17 more years before she’s an adult…!).

Anyway, here is…

Life has changed a LOT in the past year since becoming a parent!

An Update on Private Coaching and Group Coaching

On Tuesday, I sent out an email asking you if you would be interested in getting coaching from me, either personal one-on-one coaching or group coaching.

I didn’t even want to think about moving forward with this unless enough people were interested.

I was actually quite shocked and humbled that over 120 people raised their hand and said that they wanted to work with me.

And That Was a Clear Signal to Me That You Want This!

So, we are going to move forward with this.

I’ll be putting together a formal offer for personal coaching soon.

Plus, since there are a lot of people interested in group coaching and an interactive course, I’ll be organizing something for that too.

The Final Call

Moving forward, only people on this special “Coaching interest list” will receive insider updates and information on both the personal coaching program and the group coaching interactive course.

So, if you want to get information, updates, and early access to either coaching program, please make sure that you have signed up, if you haven’t already.

Starting next week, I’ll send out another survey to this interest list so that we can  create the best possible experience for everyone!

The Final Call

Okay, so that’s it for now.

Have a great weekend.

And remember to call your mom 🙂

Jotting down some ideas.

27 Comments

  1. Debby

    Need advice

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  2. Debby

    I am 10 years younger then man
    Was with him 10 years.. he left for women 4 years younger. We had no fight.. he said he loved me, but waited too long for me. He won’t tell me anything and I was told by him to contact him by text only. I have not contacted him. Should I even bother? It is
    so hurtful to loose friendship. What do I do.. ?

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    • Clay Andrews

      Do you know why he left? I know that he didn’t give you a lot when he actually left, but do you know of anything in the relationship or the connection that wasn’t working between the two of you in the months / years leading up to him leaving?

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  3. Els Sarens

    still interested in an online course …

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    • Clay Andrews

      Thanks Els, I’ll be posting something soon about it…

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  4. Tom

    Good morning Clay,

    I hope that you are having a great mother’s day weekend with your family.

    I have not completed the survey as I am one of your success stories.
    To this day I find myself using many of the things that I learned from your course not only in my relationship, in my everyday life as well,
    Keep up the great work and congratulations on being a new father!

    Tom

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    • Clay Andrews

      Thanks Tom. I’m glad that you’ve gotten so much from our courses in the past. I hope you’re doing well 🙂

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  5. Katya

    Hi Clay,
    I love how Parenthood has changed you. I remember when my first child was born, I looked at my ex husband ( btw no regrets there) and we both said: “why did we wait so long”. It’s truly wonderful feeling and something that indeed changed us and our life. Your daughter is precious.
    I didn’t expressed interest previously, life was too hectic… But I do want to be part of the updates on coaching. I’m struggling financially now but I hope I will nail a good paying job soon, so please keep me up to date and maybe I will be able to join your coaching too.
    Thank you again!

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  6. Panayotis S. Kakos

    Warmest Greetings to you Clay and your family. Appreciating your everyday efforts with writing the emails and helping me open my eyes with saving a relationship that meant everything to me. Only wished I had looked into your expertise sooner and before the restraining order. As I wait the time till I can contact her, I am thankful for the knowledge and ideas you have been so generous in offering me.
    A great Mother’s Day weekend to you and your brand new family.
    Panayotis

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  7. Mel

    Im in israel, need some professional advice… I am stil in pain,, worst feeling ever since the break up ….still confused on what to think or do…..been focusing on self-improvement, way too hard…anything i appreciate watching your videos and even your interview

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    • Clay Andrews

      Mel, I’m sorry to hear that you are in so much pain, and that nothing you are doing seems to be working. Without knowing more about your situation, I would have to recommend that you work on being emotionally okay with the fact that the breakup is something that happened. You don’t have to like that it happened, but if you can accept the fact that it happened, you’ll be helping yourself get out of this panicked state of mind.

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  8. Kaloni

    I’m trying to get my girlfriend back after an echo break up at the end of November 2018. I did not contact for a little over 3 months; then reached out when my friend said she had been asking about me and that I should contact her. We started texting again and I suggested meeting up, which we did. It went extremely well; and everything was about the same afterwards. I asked about hanging out again the next week and she said it not out of the question; but gave me a ton of reasons why she’s not exactly jumping at the opportunity to. Work is extremely busy for her, I know this to be true, she’s still seeing someone, she doesn’t have much time to herself, and that she spends a lot of her free time with her Dad and Brother, which is also true. I’m just trying to figure out how to deepen our connection; because we had a girl and now I feel like she’s running from possibly getting her emotions involved again since we had such a great time. I just want to connect deeper again emotionally; but she’s sporadic with the contact so I’m never sure what to expect. Help,Lol!

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    • Clay Andrews

      Hi, Kolani, when you were with her, did you demonstrate to her that you are not the same person that she broke up with? Also, have you taken the pressure off of the situation by letting her know that you don’t have a hidden agenda? And how was the emotional connection when you were together? Was it strong or was there anything missing? These are the factors that I commonly see creating a situation like this. If you’re interested in either the private coaching or group coaching we are putting together, please make sure you are on the interest list.

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      • Kaloni

        We had an amazing time; but we didn’t discuss the relationship. I figured it would be potentially stressful for her; although she asked if I wanted to talk about it, I just opted to enjoy each other’s time. Also, I may have done a bit much after because I was sending her goodnight texts and stuff quite a bit after we hung out. So maybe she does feel like I have an agenda. I backed off though after a friend suggested it might be too much too fast. I’m just trying to figure out how to connect better with her emotionally currently.

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        • Clay Andrews

          Hi Kaloni, when it comes to pacing, it’s important to really see things from your ex’s point of view. I know that we can often project our own interest on to someone else, but that may not necessarily be where they are at. So, it’s important to see things through her eyes to get a sense of what sort of pacing might feel best for her.

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  9. Latressia

    I need to figure out how to go about things with my ez

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    • Clay Andrews

      Yeah, that’s a big consideration and it’s a big topic of discussion as well. If you’re interested in getting more help, make sure you’re on the interest list.

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  10. Meg

    Hey there, I’m in desperate need of help. Also, I love love love your videos! So, I’ve been in a committed relationship for almost 7 years (well, I was). My long term boyfriend was deployed. Before the deployment he wanted to split, and I knew why so I told him let’s try a different approach and dude things were AMAZING. So, two months before the deployment were no bueno, then the month before it was great. Now, during the deployment (6 months), the first three months were great and the last three he started to fade from me. But, we continued making future plans and talking about the things we wanted to do. During the deployment I knew he withdrew from me because somebody told him that I was cheating on him (I was not and I had the man reach out to him to confirm that I had never). Now, he came home but had to stay on the base for a couple of weeks. The first night was amazing, then things got weird and I panicked. I was begging to see him and he kept rejecting me and I was telling him exactly where my head was at and I was freaking out. He understood… well… I kept at him. Smothered him, didn’t show him enough respect, didn’t show trust. I get it. I know where I messed up. Well, he got home, I saw him the first night that he was actually home home, and I stayed the night (he didn’t want me to)…. and the next day he left. He said that he still has so much live for me, but that he’s not in love with me. I begged, pleaded, and asked him to explain. I reminded him of times and our future that we wanted, I reminded him of how badly I wanted kids with him… and he cried for an hour with me. I contacted him after a week and the conversation was great. I was so excited to talk to him, I smiled the whole time and he seemed excited to y’all as well being that he kept telling me so many things. Then, towards the end I brought the break up back up, and he said that it hurt him so bad because he knew how much he was hurting me. I also asked why he blocked me on social media and he said because he didn’t want to see me and remember how much he hurt me. Then, I reminded him that I want him, I miss him, and I live him more than anything. I only want him, I’m still in love, and I want my future with him… any advice? (P.s.- I spoke with his mom. She says he’s lost and to just stay away and give him time and he’ll come back around eventually).

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    • Alexis Aguilar

      I need your help Coach Clay, I have been in no contact since me and my ex broke up it’s been 7- months & We spent 3 years in a half together all her family loves me and I have been working on myself doing some changes like loosing weight, Going to the gym & She has seen my changes and got shocked how much I changed in this period of time. This time alone has let me be more happy about myself and has let me know what went wrong in our relationship & I gave her some space when we broke up but she was texting me when I went to no contact with her and got angry at me for no reason when I know that I did not do something wrong just wanted to make her feel how was it without me & She is in a rebound relationship but she still keeps seeing posts that my family puts about me she is like literally the first one to see them & she acts like She does not care about me anymore I have not contact her since have been doing things to keep her out of my mind & What should I do Coach Clay?& I have been doing music a new talent that I discovered & Also I graduated from college She doesn’t know that I graduated but thank you so much love advice tv you videos helped me during my darkest days and know how to stay strong to finish What I have been working for so long!🙏🏻❤️

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      • Clay Andrews

        Alexis, sounds like you’ve made a lot of positive changes in your life. I really want to congratulate you on that. I know that all these changes must not have been easy. And since she is watching your social media, I imagine she has some idea about all this stuff. My question is, is there a reason that you haven’t contacted her directly yourself yet?

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  11. Kyle

    Hey clay been subscribed to your newsletter and YouTube channel for 2 months now. My common law wife and I have been split up since the end of March. Since then I have started personal counseling started going to church and improving my life in ways I never thought possible. The hard part of all of this is that she has basically gone no contact unless to tell me certain things we have lived together for basically 4 years spent alot of time together last year we had a short break because I wasn’t working and took her for granted but I did find a new job steped up my life and started changing my self then but all of a sudden I stopped the changes and reverted back to being emotionally cut off from her then she told me she had an affair with someone then I went and started having a online conversation about cheating on her with someone but I never went through with the affair and this had happened twice before in our relationship but she forgave me for them because she wasn’t emotionally connected with me at the time either. Now she has kind of moved out of the apartment and left me here alone we still do have contact but I want to try to reconnect with her and she gives me the cold shoulder there is a few stressors happening in her life like finally going to college to achieve her goal in life in which I support 100 percent and I want to be there as a supporter but I’m not sure if she wants me to go with her but I did just get a transfer offer to go to the same city she is going to school in but I don’t want to rush her into a relationship but I do want us to step back into living together to help each other out and she has also started counseling as well to get past some of this. But from some of your videos I have gotten some information on what’s going on. The last serious talk we had she said she could get back together with me but not for a year but in one of your videos you said that could be a lie to hide a truth that she could really want to. I’m just so confused on this whole thing I know I want to give this a whole hearted attempt to fix it what should I do where do you think she is on the road to getting back together?

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    • Clay Andrews

      I imagine if she is giving you the cold shoulder, that she is still holding on to hurt and pain from the past. Have you two been able to truly let go of the past? If not, then it’s going to be very hard to really move forward with those negative emotions in place. About the “one year” thing. It’s not that it’s a lie. But more that she needs some space to feel through her emotions toward you, and for whatever reason she believe that one year is “long enough.” It doesn’t necessarily mean that she needs a year. But from where she is emotionally right now, that’s what it seems like to her.

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      • Kyle

        I know that I have been able to let it go and move on from the infidelity but she hasn’t really said much about her she did say that she hasn’t truly been able to forgive me yet which I can understand but what I can’t understand is that she made everything up until the split seem like we were fine but she was holding in the resentment and anger from it all and then an argument about her foing off to school brought this whole thing on I feel like there may be more to this situation than meets the eye

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        • Clay Andrews

          By any chance, is she the type of person that bottles up her feelings? That could explain a lot…

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          • Kyle

            She does definitely until she can’t keep it in anymore then it all comes out. I mean I was the same way too but I tried to talk to her about it and nothing has changed I’m trying to get her to connect with me but she said she’s not ready to hang out or talk about it

  12. Paola

    Hi, Just wanted to say that your videos and emails have been extremely helpful in my case. My husband is back and we are working things out. I could NOT have done this without your helpful insight and thoughtful advice in YouTube and in your emails. I would like to know more about how to emotionally connect. I’m a child of divorce and without any good examples in my life I’m sad and embarrassed to say that I don’t know how to. I’m so grateful for all your wonderful tips, I applied them and they worked!!! I still need more help so would like to participate in your sessions. Thanks

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    • Clay Andrews

      Paola, thanks for the kind words, but I want to make sure that you know that YOU made this happen in your life. It wasn’t me. Maybe we helped to guide you, but it was YOU that did all the hard work.

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