Would You Help Me Out? (I Need Your Feedback)
Note: In case you’re wondering, this is a followup to this post that I made a few days ago, which, by the way, received a bigger response than I would have imagined!
If you can’t watch this video right now, you can read the blog post below.
Maybe all this time spent “social distancing” is starting to get to me as well, too.
I’ve Been Feeling Hesitant To Talk To You About Something, But I Think It’s Time We Had A Little Conversation Here…
As you may or may not know, this whole relationship advice thing, that I’ve been doing since 2009, has really been an incredible experience.
I’ve been blessed to help countless people get the loving relationships that they want and transform the direction that their life takes in a major way.
You see, it’s easy to get caught in the details of text messages, emails, and helping a client figure out what the next moves might be…
…But when you get an update from someone you worked with months or years later… only to find out that they got married to the person they used to call their ex (or that they are having kids together…!), it really makes you stop and take a new perspective.
I’ve even had people, who, after getting back together with their exes, have promised to invite me to their weddings…!
A photo from a client’s wedding day last year.
They look great, but when we were working together, communication and working cooperatively were major concerns that she had with him.
So, Here’s What I’ve Been Holding Out On…
You see, it’s nice to get success stories like that from clients.
But I’ve noticed that there are more than a few people who may not see a clear path to get there with the person they love.
They’re stuck in truly difficult and challenging situations. Situations that desperately need better communication.
Situations such as:
- Their ex being particularly stubborn
- Their ex pulling back sharply whenever they get too close
- Their ex being extremely closed minded
- Their ex avoiding talking about important topics
- Their ex insisting that they just want to be friends or that there are no feelings
- Or their ex keeping them stuck in an unending cycle that isn’t very fulfilling and never seems to end
To put it plainly, these aren’t just simple cut and dry situations.
These are intense and high-stakes situations that require a certain level of advanced communication.
And people have asked me for help dealing with these particularly difficult or challenging scenarios.
Another client in my group coaching program who got back together with her ex right before they had to go into lockdown because of the pandemic.
Things were definitely rocky and tense for her at one point, but because of stronger communication they’ve spent the past few weeks together.
For A Long Time, I’ve Resisted Teaching This
But, really, I didn’t think that people (outside of a small handful of people in unique situations) would need help with high-stakes communication.
…At least, until I saw your survey responses last week.
And, of course, I can be a bit obsessive about projects when I start them.
I’m old enough to know that I’m unlikely to fix this personality trait any time soon.
…So, I’m Trying To Learn From The Past
I wondered if it would really help people, since every relationship and situation is unique.
But it did help people and I received countless touching success stories since then.
It would have been small minded of me to NOT to create the Ex Solution Program.
And I’m beginning to think that it may be small minded of me to hold back on sharing what I know about high stakes communication for particularly tricky situations.
So, I Am THINKING About Doing This
If I Do This, It Will Be A Lot Of Work
So, I only want to do this if there is enough interest.
So, I would like to know…
- What do you think?
- Should I do this?
- Would you be interested?
I’m not asking for any kind of commitment right now. I just want to know if there’s any interest.
I don’t even want to think about taking on this task unless there is enough interest.
** So, if you would please take a moment and leave a comment letting me know what you think about this.
It would mean a lot to me and I’ll do my best to respond to as many comments as I can.