Free Communication Course For Commitment

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Hey there. A few weeks ago, I invited you to join a special Facebook group where I would holding a free course on communication.

I wanted to post the videos from that group here, since there are a lot of people that do not use Facebook for a variety of different reasons.

Our Facebook group is still ongoing, but here is what we have done so far…

Here’s A Free Communication Course For You…

(Click on the sections below to see the other 4 videos.)

Video 1 - The Foundation Of Commitment
What is at the foundation of commitment in a relationship? Let’s take a look at that in this first video…

Video 2 - What Creates Connection?
What creates a connection and “moves the ball closer to the hole”? In this video, we’ll be covering what you can do to start things off, especially with a stubborn or difficult person.

Video 3 - The Triangle Of Commitment
This is an important video. After talking with a lot of people about their relationships, there are really 3 key things that cause a relationship to decline, and if you work on these 3 things, it will start to bring the relationship back together and heal it.

Video 4 - Mind The Gap
As we get into communication a bit more, let’s talk about how to avoid problems of miscommunication that can cause a lot of challenges in a relationship.

Video 5 - Closing The Gap
Now, let’s discuss how to avoid “gaps” from causing miscommunications and what you can do to “move the ball closer to the hole.”

What’s Next?

I’ve heard from a lot of people that they are interested in more about high stakes communication to change the minds of stubborn people and for having harmonious relationships.

I’ll be in touch shortly and we can continue this conversation to see what a course like this might look like, if we do something like this at all.

64 Comments

  1. Jim Robb

    Clay want to say thank you for the new group you started , it has been a huge help for me and I would love to sign up for the course you are offering

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    • Clay Andrews

      Thanks for the feedback Jim. I’ll post an update with what I’m thinking for the communication course soon.

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      • Joe

        Thanks for putting this out, Clay. It is very much appreciated!

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    • Sydnee

      How do you find the course on FB

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    • Elizabeth Gillespie

      I’ve been watching these lessons on the modernlive.life page. I see that some but not all of the lessons are also on the fb group page. (There should be five lessons so far?) But I can’t find people’s homework on either site, nor can I upload pics of my own.

      What am I missing?

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  2. Rajesh Kadiwar

    Brilliant – thanks for sending the email as I’m not often on facebook!

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    • Clay Andrews

      Hi Rejesh. Thanks for the comment. I hope you enjoy the free course.

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    • joel sanchez cortes

      I watched the first video. I will like to participate in the Facebook group.

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  3. Anna Mcvicar

    My ex broke up with me and I would love to get him back. We were so happy and in love. He has a lot of stresssors in his life and just felt it was best to have space from me. He said I deserved to be happy and so does he. I wish I knew where it all went wrong. He never likes to talk about his feelings so I never know what he’s thinking. Please help.

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    • Clay Andrews

      Be sure to watch the video on the “Triangle of Commitment.” I think it will answer a lot of your questions.

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    • Vanessa David

      Hello dear @ Anna there is no need of telling all and all through, love is life without endless, I wanna refer you to a great relationship restorer who can help you get back your ex without any kind of delay

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  4. Marina

    I watch the video – everything happens for a reason . 🙂

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    • Clay Andrews

      Thanks Marina. I hope you liked the videos.

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    • Elizabeth Gillespie

      I’ve been watching these lessons on the modernlive.life page. I see that some but not all of the lessons are also on the fb group page. (There should be five lessons so far?) But I can’t find people’s homework on either site, nor can I upload pics of my own.

      What am I missing?

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      • Clay Andrews

        No worries. The funwork was for the people on the Facebook group. I don’t think it’s possible to easily upload photos as a blog comment here. So don’t worry about the funwork component of the videos.

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  5. Anne

    Clay, sounds good thank you!

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  6. Veronica

    Thank you for all that you do Clay!! You have no idea what difference your visions has done for me. Just yesterday my ex called me out of the blue and we had a great talk! All because I have imprinted the things you talk about connecting on an emotional level. You’re a true blessing!!🤗

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    • Alexander Bell

      Veronica,
      How long have you been separated.
      It’s been 2 1/2 years for me.
      I’m lost. Stuck and still madly devoted to my ex.

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      • Clay Andrews

        Hello Alexander, watch the video on the “Triangle of Commitment” and I think it will help give you a sense of how to move forward.

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    • Clay Andrews

      Veronica, thank you so much for the kind words. I’m glad you are having a great experience with your ex.

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      • Rae

        Thanks Clay for supplying these videos! For me personally, I had been following your program and then the gaps appeared and we lapsed back into arguments resulting into another rebound. We are now talking again, but I am plagued with fear and distancing myself. I can’t seem to get past understanding his distancing and relationship focus and my hurt feelings of rejection and self protection. This is a greatly needed subject, there is not a whole lot out there in how to get past the issues, once you have established a re-connection.

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  7. Aaron Matson

    Clay,

    I have watched this video and you have my attention!! I want to reconcile with my wife and I am willing to do anything for her and our family. I am trying to just get through to her but its super hard because she is in another relationship with another man.

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    • Clay Andrews

      Aaron, thanks for the comment. Just to be clear, there are 5 videos above. You have to click the titles of the other 4 videos to “expand” them. Hope it helps you connect with your ex.

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      • Aaron Matson

        Clay,

        I am watching all 5 videos and I have also signed up for the Connect and Commit as well. I’m trying to take everything in you teach and tailor it to my situation. I appreciate all you do for everyone!!

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  8. Jennifer J Worth

    I am here and ready to participate in this group. Thank you for initiating this Communicatuon Course

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    • Clay Andrews

      Thanks for commenting, Jennifer. I’m glad you’re here.

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  9. Rebecca

    I watched the first video. 🙂
    Just wanted to say thank you for all that you and your team do to help.

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    • Clay Andrews

      Thanks, Rebecca. Be sure to watch the other videos when you have the time.

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  10. Kirk Jackson

    I really need some help here, with two young children involved I’m struggling to work his out on my own..

    Regards Kirk.

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    • Clay Andrews

      Sure. Feel free to book a coaching call, if you like. Most situations could benefit from the Triangle of Commitment, so be sure to watch that video above too.

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  11. Elizabeth

    Clay,

    I am so grateful that you’re providing this program, especially at a time when many of us have lost our work and are struggling financially. Thank you.

    My ex has begun to contact me again, I’m not sure of his intentions (perhaps he’s just bored during the Covid lockdown), and our communication has always been difficult.

    But more than that, I want to apply what I learn here to other relationships. I’m having difficulty with friends and family, despite mutual love and caring. I’m realizing the importance of competent communication skills.

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    • Clay Andrews

      Hello Elizabeth. Thanks for commenting. Be careful here. I don’t know if you can see it, but there was a “gap” in what you posted. How do you know that he’s only contacting you because he is bored? Make sure to watch the videos on the “gap” above.

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  12. Heather

    Hello Clay! I am so excited to be here and that you are sharing your expertise with us in this way.

    Looking forward to learning even more with you!

    I didnt know you were a Breaking Bad fan!

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    • Clay Andrews

      Ha ha! Yeah, I used to watch it a few years ago. I got caught up with other things during the last season and got out of the habit of watching though.

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      • Heather

        And busy with your daughter!

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  13. Heather

    I tried to upload my understanding photo, but it didn’t transfer. I did listen to this video. Thanks!

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    • Elizabeth

      Same here.

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    • Clay Andrews

      No worries. That was really for the people in the Facebook group. It’s okay if you can’t upload an image here on this blog.

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  14. Rebecca

    Hi Clay, I have really loved the insights from your videos and articles. I am wondering if you have ever addressed ex spouses, or separated spouses? My separated spouse and I actually talk (no relationship stuff) all the time, but sadly he is in a rebound relationship as the result of an affair. Hence, he filed for divorce. I have 6 months until the divorce is final. I believe we can fix this, we both still have love for each other. Can you share some guidance on saving a marriage?

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    • Clay Andrews

      Yeah, the first thing to keep in mind is that there is a difference between the emotional connection you have between yourself and your husband, and the legal entity of your marriage. Know which one you are working to improve because stopping a divorce may not necessarily create a strong emotional connection. Know which one is more important for you, and go for that one.

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  15. Heather

    Clay, the comments you mentioned about the triangle resonated with me. To just connect without forcing anything, and being understanding that there may be factors keeping him from reaching out recently.

    That he may be keeping a slight distance and, although he wants to give, is unable to at this moment.

    Unplugged the BS Machine, and keeping the faith!

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    • Clay Andrews

      Thanks for the kind words and the feedback, Heather. Yeah, you’ve got to watch that BS Machine. It can really cause some problems if you’re not careful.

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      • Heather

        Indeed, Clay! I’ll be watching the gap videos next, and taking notes.

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  16. Caroline Swilley

    Hey Clay! You have all my gratitude for this course, it really helped to tie in other courses for the best way to improve my situation. (You’ve been the only person that seems to be able to make progress on everything i’m dealing with). Thank you for the helping me obtain the confidence and ability to achieve a second chance with the person I love.

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    • Clay Andrews

      Thank you so much for the kind words. I’m glad that this has helped you put some pieces together.

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    • Alexander Bell

      Hope all works.
      X

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  17. Wei Quan Lim

    I’m in! 🙂

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    • Clay Andrews

      Thank you! I’ll post an update shortly with more info…

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  18. Els Sarens

    I would like to sign up for the course you are talking about.

    I also appreciate a lot that you share your wisdom with us.

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    • Clay Andrews

      Thanks Els… Since you’re in our group coaching program, you’re “grandfathered” in and will be getting access to it at no cost.

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  19. Aaron Matson

    Clay,

    The gap I am experiencing is I believe my wife has some serious displacement going on as she may be looking at buying a home with her rebound.

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  20. Aaron

    Me and my ex have been apart almost 3 years and started talking again a few months back. Since then we have seen each other 4 times, every time we do we laugh and just have an awesome time like we just met again. She even comments about how she had a good time. The other day we had lunch and she pulled her phone out to show me all the pictures she still had of us after 3 years. I have expressed my interest and feeling to her and she told me she isn’t wanting anything right now with anyone. She did get out of a relationship about 5 months ago and is scared to get hurt. I’m just in the confused stage if she’s into me or not. It feels like it when we are together, like she can’t control her true feelings because we are face to face. Any idea?

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    • Alexander Bell

      Same situation

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  21. Geo

    Clay

    How do I get more personal coaching and can you provide the cost as well please?

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  22. Elizabeth

    Answer to your question re the value of a communication course:

    I think it would be a valuable addition to your canon and to existing relationship courses in general. This sstraightforward stuff that should be obvious and should be taught to everyone but isn’t. I have avoided direct communication my entire life so this is challenging material for me.

    I don’t know how this overlaps with your other courses, so I can’t speak to that, but if there’s significant new material here, it should definitely have its own course.

    (I wouldn’t be able to afford it, however, so I’m grateful for your generosity here!)

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  23. Alexander Bell

    Thank you Clay,

    I am on first video.
    I do think I need 1 to 1 help.
    It’s been a very difficult journey for me over 3 years.
    I broke contact with my ex when I heard from her she had had a short 10 week relationship with another guy.
    I told her I could not be in friendship as waiting to see her with another was going to be too painful
    We were together 8 years and have a daughter who is now 8 years old .
    We have been separated 2 1/2 years.
    I currently have no contact with either due to my last decision to break out of friendship.
    I understand now what you are explaining about friendship being the best place to be for new connection.
    Its just so hard to sit and watch someone you love so very much be with another your thoughts and imagination do not help. To think that she gives all that us precious to me away to another I’m sure many will understand this.

    I’m stuck.
    How do I repair my mistake and get to be friends again

    As I said I think 1 to 1 is my only way forward .
    I will try my best to look into the costs.
    I dont currently work due to depression and my funds are minimal.

    Thank you Clay.
    I hope you can help.

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  24. Ellen

    Thank you so much for this clay

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  25. Jennifer Schrimper

    How do you join the Facebook group

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  26. Diane

    Thanks this is so helpful

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  27. Christian Stochholm

    Yes Clay
    A course on communication is a good idea. May I suggest you include how to communicate with exes with addiction problems.

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  28. Paul Liinamaa

    I have found your videos to be helpful and useful.
    Thanks Clay.

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  29. ABM

    Clay – Yes, it would be helpful to do a communication course with a focus on stubborn exes.

    Reply

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